In my last blog, I wrote about the importance of values, especially related to how we can influence our children and other important people in our lives. Today I want to get a little more specific about why having values and imparting them to others is so helpful and also suggest some practical ways you can do it.
First, here is a breakdown of the benefits:
A lot of people live life by default. They just take things as they come, often assuming they don’t have any control over what happens anyway. Unfortunately, many of them will one day look back and regret some missed opportunities.
Ponder this for a minute: Whatever you choose in life, you are not only making decisions for yourself, but for the generations that follow you and the people you impact along the way. One of my favorite quotes is: An inheritance is what you leave for your loved ones. A legacy is what you leave in your loved ones.
As a parent, you want to help your child if he’s being harassed at school, but what if it’s your child who’s pushing others around? First, understand that even good parents who do many things right can have a child who’s a bully. If you do, it’s important to learn what influences are at work.
Researchers at the University of Arizona surveyed 6th to 8th graders. Those who reported bullying most had experienced more forceful, physical discipline from their parents, viewed more TV violence and misbehaved more at home. In that group, 32% lived with a stepparent and 36% were in single-parent households. They generally had fewer adult role models, more exposure to gang activity and easier access to guns. Researchers concluded that bullies learn much of their behavior by example, and consequently need as much help as their victims.